After 20 hours of plane trip and all the other boring hours of layovers, we are back home now in the US. Too bad our Philippines vacation is now over.

Tuesday, when we all got our bags packed and had everything ready, me and my husband went to the mall first like hours before we had to go to the airport to do a little shopping for stuffs that we wanted to bring to the US with us. It was great although we were in a hurry or else we will be late for our flight and everything else. When we were done, we went back to the house and picked up my family because they were gonna go with us to the airport. 

We got there pretty early because we wanted to spend the rest of the hours with them just kinda hang out and talk. My mom was holding Eben the whole time until she had to give him back to me when we were about to leave. It was sad because I know that she really wanted us to stay longer especially Eben. She even asked me if I could leave Eben there with them but we just can't. Eben needs to be with us, with me,  because I will surely miss him all the time if he's away from me. It is ok though, we will always come back there to visit them. Perhaps, when Eben is a little older when he can already walk by himself without holding on to us. 

It was pretty sad when we left. My mom was crying when she gave Eben back to me and told us to take care. My sister went to the bathroom and I could tell that she was crying too. Once I said my goodbyes to them, I walked straight inside without looking back at them because I didn't want them to see me crying. It's alright, we had to go back anyways no matter what. If we had extended our stay, we would've paid extra for changing our flight and the extension fee for my husband and my baby. 

When we got home,  I turned on the computer right away so I could chat with my sister and there they were, waiting for us to get online. So really, everything was ok eventhough it was kinda sad but life goes on...

This post is about interracial marriages but is only based on stories or experiences that I have read in forums and news. From the moment I married my american husband, I have heard stories from friends and their friends about marriage problems partly because of culture differences and personal characteristics.

Problems about cultural differences is seemingly understandable because based on my own personal experience, it is really not that easy being in a foreign country alone by yourself even though, you already had a partner but still, your daily life is already different from the life that you have used to back home in your own country, where you grew up with the people you are closest to, your family. Changes in a foreign country varies depending on how you handle it. Some people can't handle the boredom, the food and just the entire new environment so, they choosed to go back home. Most of the time, cultural differences hurts the marriage especially if the other party is not that supportive with the other so they ended up getting a divorce.

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A matter of personal characteristic also plays a huge role of why there's a lot of failed interracial marriages. It doesn't just apply to interracial relationship but to all types of relationships. In my own opinion, a relationship/marriage trouble where attitude is a problem, is mainly the couples fault. When you enter a marriage, you should already know that certain person inside and out and that's one big mistake to marry somebody for a short time, unless, you'll get lucky to find a really good person that you marry shortly after you met them. A lot of people experienced this kind of problem and though they knew the consequences before they got married yet they keep complaining about it.

Although, I already have said that it's the couples fault but there are also times that one person is just so good at hiding their real color especially when they are still in a dating period. It happens a lot. There are people who are born to have a real bad attitude and just so great at wearing a mask and hide the real them until they get married and burst it out to their unlucky partners.

Cultural differences, personal characteristics or whatever it is, a marriage of any kind should work if both partners are willing to try to keep it working. There are a lot of aspects that could help build a stronger bond in any relationship. You just got to find out what they are and work on it.

Today is the fifth day of our vacation here in the Philippines but it already seemed like tomorrow we'll have to fly back to the US already even though we still have two weeks left. We are enjoying it a lot though. My husband likes it a lot here and he even thinking about extending our stay but it will then all depend on our budget because we already had set a budget for this trip and we don't wanna get short on it and get broke. I also noticed that my baby likes it better here than in the US. Well, I can't blame him. Everything is so different here than back home in America.

At home, Eben don't have that much of a playmate except myself, his mom:). Whereas, here, everyone's attention is always on him. My family loves him so much especially mom. Why wouldn't she? It's her first grandbaby. I am sure that she misses having a baby in our family. It's been 17 years since we last had a baby in the family and now Eben's here. I am so glad that she likes him a lot. I would really feel so sorry for her when we have to leave already to go back home. For sure she will be sad about it but like I said, what can I do? Of course I wanna stay here but at the same time, I already have my own family and it will all depend on my husband whether we stay here in the Philippines or just come back to the US. I also don't wanna give him a hard time about this so really it all just depends on him.

Right now, we will just have to keep coming back here in the Philippines to visit so Eben will know my family as he grows up.

Finally, after two years of living in the USA, I'm back home now in the Philippines. I can't describe how excited I am when we stepped on the plane in Korea on the way to Cebu. The 5 hours flight from Korea to Cebu seemed longer than the 12 hours from San Francisco to Korea.

It's not just me being home that excites me so much. It is also because it's the first time that my mom meets Eben, her first grandbaby.

In the plane, Eben did good although he cried for a little bit when he felt the ear pains caused by the air pressure. The trip was long, tiring but full of excitement and anticipation. When we landed we had to go through immigration and custom.

At the Immigration desk, my husband gave our passports to the guy in charge in the desk then on to customs. While we were still inside the airport, I could see my mom already together with my brother and sister outside looking for us. When we got all our luggages back, my heart was beating so fast because I was so anxious already to see my family. When we're finally out, they were running fast towards us. My mom then just grabbed Eben saying nothing to us and just paid all her attentions to Eben for the first 10 minutes of that meeting. I could tell that she was so excited to see us but most especially the baby.

The event was fast. Until now, I still can't believe that I am already back here in the Philippines and with my family. I'd hate to go back to the USA but whether I like it or not, I really have to come back there when our vacation is over because that's my husband's homeplace and I don't want to keep him away from his own home and family too.

Right now, I should just better enjoy the rest of our vacation and not think too much about our trip back to the USA because what's important is today.